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Things I've learnt in 22 years.


So this Saturday it's my birthday, another year older! I'm not going to lie, the only thing I'm excited about is meeting up with Issy. I should probably celebrate the fact that I've made it through 22 years without braking any bones (touch wood). I've also learnt a few life lessons along the way that I thought I would share with you guys.

#1. It's not always chocolate chip.

I learnt this one the hard way. If you see something that has, what looks like, chocolate chip in it, just check that it is actually chocolate chip first or else you might be let down when you take a bite.

#2. Not everybody is going to like you.

I still struggle with the thought of someone hating me, but I now know it's not my fault. Sometimes people just have very different personalities to you and you just don't get on. It's completely normal. Haters gonna hate. 

#3. School really isn't the best. 

When I was a teenager, my Dad used to say to me "School days will be the best days of your life" and so far I can't say that is true. It might be for people who had their group of friends and everything, but for me it wasn't that great. I can understand wanting to go back to where all you have to worry about is your social life and grades, but personally I enjoy working and being a partly functioning adult. 

#4. Don't try to fit in. 

I may be a bit of a loner, but that is because I have always struggled to fit in. I didn't really enjoy the things most of my friends enjoyed and a lot of times I did stuff that I didn't actually want to do just to fit in and get to hang around with them. You learn from your mistakes and the few friends I have now accept me for the weirdo I am and I feel like I can be myself around them. At the end of the day, if you just be yourself, you will end up meeting people who accept you for you and that will feel amazing.

#5. Being single isn't bad. 

A lot of people are constantly searching for the over half they think they need to complete them, of course I went through a stage in school where all my friends had boyfriends and I felt super left out but you get over it once you realize that there's more to life than having a partner. I think it's great if you do have someone and all that, but I also think that you should know that it doesn't make you anything less because you don't. Once you feel great in your own company, then you will meet someone. 

#6. It's okay to make mistakes. 

I haven't fully learnt this one yet but I'm putting it down because I'm half way there and I think you should all know. Sometimes mistakes are made and you feel crap about it and keep going back and thinking it over, what you should of done and how you messed up. But we are human and we are going to make mistakes! That's how you learn. Apologize if needed and try again, just don't beat yourself up about it.

#7. Dress yourself.

Don't dress to impress everyone else around you. Dress how you want, so that you look in the mirror and think "damn I look great". You should dress how you want! If that includes very colorful socks and shorts, go for it (this was a look I rock as a kid). At the end of the day, you do only live once and in that time you should dress and act how you like. 

#8. You don't know the full story.

Sometimes we don't realize that even though that persons life looks great and easy, we have no idea what they are going through and we shouldn't judge them or say what we think they should do or how they should act. Everybody has their things and people don't know everything that is running through your head, so that probably means you don't know everything running through their head. Don't talk crap about people.

#9. It's not you.

This has happened to me a lot, I spend ages talking to someone and you think you are getting on great. The next thing you know they just stop answering your messages, what's up with that? I just don't get it, but for some reason people do it. I then spend the next two weeks trying to figure out what I've said wrong or what I have done wrong, why do they hate me? But it's not always your fault. Stop replaying it in your head and move on, their loss.

#10. Things really do get better.

Every one says the same, I know. I went through a stage in my life that I found very hard and to be honest, I still get times now where I just want to give up because I feel like everything is too much. But you have to fight for yourself and get up, things really do get better. Don't think that your future is going to be horrible, be strong.  You can get through it.

#11. You don't always have to win.

Have you ever got into and argument that has just escalated so fast because neither of you will back down? Well sometimes this leads to things being said that can't be unsaid. So it's usually best to take a deep breath and come back to the discussion later once you have both calmed down and thought it through, you may be over reacting in the moment and you don't realize it.

#12. Spots are forever.

I was always made to believe that once you hit a certain age, you would have really amazing adult skin. This is false. Spots are forever, they are also completely natural. Also, it really is best just to leave them or else it will scar.

#13. You don't have to be a certain gender to like things.

You don't have to be a boy to like football and you don't have to be a girl to like makeup. You can like what ever you want. I grew up playing with cars, dolls and videogames. There is no boy and girl toy or game, that's just stupid.

#14. Be happy where you are.

I'm all for being ambitious and working towards your dreams and all, but don't forget to enjoy where you are too. I am happy where I am, it's not a permanent thing and I wouldn't want it to be. But I am happy here at the moment, I enjoy every day whilst working towards my future. I made a change in my life that made me happier and put me on the path I wanted to be on. Make sure you take a step back every now and then and appreciate what you have and enjoy it while it lasts.

#15. Be careful who you trust.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't trust anyone, but I learnt my lesson the hard way. Not everyone is trustworthy and it can bite you in the backside if you aren't careful. Make sure people have earned you trust and you have earned theirs.

#16. People come into your life for a reason.

People come and go and every person that you meet affects you in a different way. Some may help you learn to trust, some might teach you not to trust and some might inspire you to do something that you have always wanted to do or that you used to do and you had let go. Also, people can introduce you to so many new things and even if you don't have that person in your life in a few years, at least something positive came from it.

Everyone learns different things at different ages, I have learnt loads more things but if I start listing them all out we could be here all year. Let me know what life lessons you have learnt in the comments and if you have learnt any of these. I hope you enjoyed it!! 

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  1. I love this post and I have definitely learnt a thing or two from it! Thank you very much for writing so honestly :)

    Jade xx |

  2. I love that the first point is about chocolate chips ha! I also definitely agree with you on school not being the best; everyone used to say to me "you will miss school when you leave". Still to this day like 5 years later, I've never missed it, not even for a second!

    1. haha I much prefer having to work and earning money! x

  3. I think it's so interesting to see hown people develop through the years. The older we get, the more we realize that not everything is as important as we think it is. I especially agree on the being single part. I'm 28 and trust me, people get panicky for me and can't get their head around the fact that maybe someone doesn't need he whole relationship, marriage, kids thing. It drives me nuts. And the spots thing? So true andie so annoying but since we'really old enough to wear full make-up, oh well. I enjoyed this post because I definitely learned most of these things, myself. :)

    xx Hailey - //

    1. I love this comment! It's great to know that people can relate and have learned the same lessons :) Thanks x


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